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Practical, judgment-free guides for kink, swinging and non-monogamy, written for real life: meeting people safely, finding your local community and talking with partners.
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Consent & safety
Beginner, 2 min read
Safe first meets: from first message to first coffee
How to move from chatting to meeting in person without skipping the steps that keep you safe.
Beginner, 2 min read
Negotiation before a scene: limits, safewords and check-ins
A practical walk-through of the conversation that should happen before any play, so everyone knows what they're agreeing to.
Beginner, 2 min read
Protecting your privacy (and everyone else's)
Habits that keep your lifestyle separate from your work and family life, and the rule about never outing others.
Beginner, 2 min read
If something goes wrong: reporting and getting help
What to do if a person crosses a line, online or in person, and where to find support.
Community & etiquette
Beginner, 2 min read
Munches: the easiest way into a local scene
What a munch is, what actually happens there, and how to go to your first one without feeling lost.
Intermediate, 2 min read
Play party etiquette: house rules, watching and joining in
The unwritten rules of private parties and dungeon nights, written down, so your first party goes smoothly.
Beginner, 2 min read
First messages that get replies (and respect)
How to start a conversation that doesn't land in the ignore pile, and the habits that get people blocked.
Relationships & lifestyles
Beginner, 2 min read
Swinging 101: terms, agreements and first steps
The language of the swinging lifestyle and the conversations couples should have before their first event.
Intermediate, 2 min read
Unicorn etiquette: for couples and for singles
How couples looking for a third can do it respectfully, and how singles can stay in control.
Intermediate, 2 min read
Opening up: talking to a partner about kink or non-monogamy
How to raise the conversation, what to agree on, and how to handle jealousy when it shows up.
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